Having grown out of childhood, girls became marriageable at 15-16, boys joined the ranks at 16-18. By then, girls had learned to weave, spin, cook and bake bread. They prepared their trousseau: in a painted chest they placed all the textiles they had woven themselves (bedclothes, towels, etc.) that they would need as housewives. The boys knew the basics of farming and animal husbandry, they could mow, plough and sow, and were good with large livestock.

In the social life of the young people, the most significant of the joint work activities that helped them to get to know each other. These were the autumn rubbing of the hemp and the winter spinning. On Sunday afternoons there were shindigs and balls in the fields.

The girls tried to find out who their husbands would be through various divination practices. The young men would give their chosen ones tools (a mangle, a rammer, a spinning-wheel, a distaff, a spindle) made by themselves or by a skilful friend of theirs. Moreover a ribbon or a gingerbread heart bought at a fair could be given to the girls as present.

The family also played a role in the choice of a couple for young people, especially for the wealthier ones, mostly the father’ and grandparents’ impact was the most crucial. Wealth was the most important factor. (“Guba with guba, suba with suba” – A Hungarian proverb which means that the poor should marry only the poor, and the rich only the rich. Suba is a sheepskin coat, guba mantle was associated with less fortunate.) It was strictly observed that a Reformed man should marry only a Reformed woman.

After the visit of an unwanted man who arrived at the house of girl’s family, the “szűr” (embroidered coat) he had left there was taken out of the house as a clear sign of he was unwelcome.